“Testosterone in the City” or “Men Behaving Badly”

 

I couldn’t make up my mind on the title. Every other day now, there is a new case of sexual harassment in the Hollywood / Washington courtroom. Women are standing up – men are filing out.

 

“WHATS THE DIFFERENCCE BETWEEN MEN AND GOVERNMENT BONDS? THE BONDS MATURE.”

 

In a culture where law-suits over sex and money are as common as MASH re-runs, I would have thought the headlines would pay no attention to the offenders. After all, sanctioned same sex marriage is now passé. Ashley Madison can’t even get a news reporter to stop by for a progress report.

 

One thing I have noticed on TV is that not one poor man has women all up in rage about sexual harassment. Each of these guys being charged is worth millions of dollars. Since the Harvey Weinstein resignation, over a dozen more men have been accused of sexual improprieties. Bill Cosby, Roger Ailes, Bill Clinton, and Donald Trump set the modern stage for “Sex in the City” reruns.

Add up the net worth of these four men alone and you get the GDP of any number of small countries.

 

Other common denominators:

They are all men

They are all married men

They are all over 40 and feeling the “do I still have it” syndrome

They are surrounded by “enterprising” women hoping to “make it”

They (both men and women) reportedly used their perceived power and money to use another human being

They all have great lawyers

 

“WHATS THE ONE THING THAT ALL MEN AT A SINGLES BAR HAVE IN COMMON? THEY’RE MARRIED.”

 

So what is it about men that makes us so very promiscuous-prone? We must find a responsible gene or else these women may get all the money and abscond. I know this is an old excuse, but it worked for some other high-profile groups like LGBTQ. RAMC. In the absence of a definitive gene discovery, let’s head back down to Hormone Haven.

 

MEN WERE BORN THIS WAY. Now put that in the lawyer’s pipe and smoke it. Surely men who were born with testosterone can get a pass for pass-making behavior? Why not? And men who were cursed with “too much” testosterone…yes, we will have greater compassion for them. Remember what Jesus said, “Let him who is without sin collect the first pay-out check.”

There is no question that many of these women-girls (and boys-men) are genuinely innocent victims. We can hope that in such cases the evidence is overwhelming and appropriate punishment is levied against the perpetrator. Equally true is a reality that, in Hollywood, we seldom see an “innocent” victim. The adage that “Men may use love to get sex, power and money while women often use sex to get love, power and money”, is true in every generation.

 

Consequently, there are numerous fuses that are connected to powder kegs in our society. Since the sexual freedom revolution of the sixties, permissiveness has been our cultures bedfellow. Any man, or even young boy, who hopes to escape unscathed into an adulthood with healthy personal and sexual relations with the opposite sex, will have to be bionic or super human. Sexual advertising is a daily routine and hurdle we must face. Sex is presented as a commodity by both men and women, boys and girls, and to them, all at the same time. We all want to believe that there are no consequences for this, despite the obvious.

 

Fuse One—Young girls are lured into the seduction of promiscuity through the unashamed promotion of sex by their musical and Hollywood idols. The message they receive is, “This is how you do it girls.” Remove a caring parent, especially a father, who says no to this powder keg and you see what we have today. Sex-money culture wants to own our children.

 

Fuse Two—Men of all ages now have a pervasive fuse that seemingly, constantly remains lit. Already dosed up with natural testosterone production in the body, men (and women) will light the fuse that heightens the senses to extreme. Videos and pictures of play-actors present sex as a fantasy where girls want to be used and abused and where boys begin to play-act themselves, treating all girls and women as if they want to act out his fantasy. Pornography preaches this sermon and it has the fastest growing, highly addicted congregation in the world.

 

Who would have thought that a hormone in the body could serve to de-humanize us? Would that we could blame it, but we cannot. Neither can we excuse our destructive behaviors to the porn industry or Hollywood. (one and the same?)

 

Christian men, women and children are reminded, “Don’t be immoral in matters of sex. That is a sin against your own body in a way that no other sin is. You surely know that your body is a temple where the Holy Spirit lives. The Spirit is in you and is a gift from God. You are no longer your own. God paid a great price for you. So use your body to honor God.”  (I Corinthians 6:18-20)

“You are God’s people, so don’t let it be said that any of you are immoral or indecent or greedy.” (Ephesians 5:3)

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