Terror is the final stage of three at *gaining power and control over others and or a situation.
Stage 1: Flattery (when this deceit no longer works-go to stage 2)
Stage 2: Anger (2 will lose effectiveness in quick fashion)
Stage 3: Threats to abandon and or harm-TERRORIZE
Terrorists are insecure, fearful people seeking a remedy that enforces the cooperation of others while dismissing any personal responsibility for themselves.
In the case of Muslims
Allah demands moral behaviors.The Quran (Allah’s perfect will) is clear about “Allah-immorality”. A Muslim terrorist has reached stage 3 and intends to fix or change the behaviors of the Infidel (that’s you and me) and their own apostates, on behalf of Allah, by “justified force” and or death if necessary.
In the case of White Supremacists
They are afraid of losing control of their world and it is clear to see who they fear. ANYONE NOT LIKE THEM. Their fear escalates to a boiling point where stage 3 in their minds becomes an only solution.
In the case of you and me
We are each capable of our own localized terror plots. This is what domestic abuse is about. This is what emotional and physical abuse can do. This is the ugly face of bigotry and prejudice. Prejudice is “being down on what you are not up on”.
Terrorists called Sexual perverts/abusers know all about stages 1-3
The sex trades have burgeoned in America. Very evil people are stealing our children. Vulnerable children from broken and highly dysfunctional homes are chosen for their ease of manipulation through social media and desperate circumstances.
In many cases of abortion
Abusive men will seek to cover their tracks–to be rid of the “evidence”. When desperate, they have no problem terrorizing mother and child in this effort. Or women (family shame) seeking to prevent exposure and judgement, or to prevent additional life-strain that becoming a mother could invite–Often, she will chose stage 3 – horror and terror for her child.
Terrorists have lived through their own version of terror, thereby learning the craft of survival and perpetuation quite well.
The way to be rid of terrorism
is to keep the number of broken and dysfunctional families at a minimum. Children from these healthy families (mom-dad-child) are more likely to respect the rights and dignity of others. Family members who are rooted and grounded in their communities, faith and financial securities are much less likely to seek personal significance and belonging through gangs and or terror groups.
They will deny any part of a creed, code or religious doctrine that seeks to dominate and control others for any reason. They will work hard, pay their taxes, become mature leaders and live quiet lives with dignity while serving the good of others, not seeking to dominate, control, possess or use them.
MAKING A STRONG FAMILY AND A FAMILY STRONG
1-Connect at the most basic level. Feelings and emotions. Talk about how you feel, especially fears and anxieties. This is especially true for men and boys who often suppress such things and dismiss them as “girly”. We grow emotionally as a family when we make time to talk and enjoy the freedom to be human, complete with flaws, warts and all–and no fear of being ridiculed and or rejected. This is at the heart of being family. WE MUST TALK! Be together and together be strong.
Allow me to quote the great singer-song writer James Taylor:
“Oh, father and mother, sister and brother
If it feels nice, don’t think twice.”
“Shower the People”
Listen to this song here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6cqNPySNyDM
If your family is broken, join the rest of the world. We are all dysfunctional at some level. No family is free from problems. What we are about as parents is keeping ourselves in a condition of constant growth and progressive maturity. Whether single parent or married couple as head of the home, children need strong parents by example and for security. Resolve to be that parent, no matter the struggle or difficulty.
2- Love with firm discipline and decisive boundaries
Love that does not protect and nurture is no love at all. Children need a parents love and care yes, but such love must embody rules and boundaries. Love, to be secure, must also enforce said punishments when rules are broken and boundaries are breached.
“All children are foolish, but firm correction will make them change.” (Proverbs 22:15)
Children grow up into adults. As they grow, make them earn parental trust. Make them earn freedom to do and act as an adult. Just as punishments must fit the crime, freedom must fit the responsible behavior. The reward for doing right is freedom and relative independence until they marry and or leave home to begin their own lives and families.
How do children feel about themselves? “Just as the most significant person in their lives feel about them”–and for their early formative years–PARENT–THIS IS YOU!
NEVER STRIKE YOUR CHILD WITH YOUR HAND. The hand is for comfort, caress and encompassing with security. Reserve discipline for when you are reserved, and in control of your own feelings. Punishment that is about making you feel better about yourself will rarely help your child.
NEVER DEMEAN YOUR CHILD by attacking their character. Our children can do some pretty stupid things. Let us call these actions stupid and careless WITHOUT CARELESSLY CALLING OUR CHILDREN STUPID. For example, children who are told that they are hopeless, dumb, stupid, etc—they will often spend the rest of their lives living out just what they are told. This is a sad fact of life that is easily avoided. Parents often project their own personal frustrations and negative feelings onto their own children, perpetuating the wrong and dysfunction for another generation unless a firm resolve is made to stop it.
Parent–it is never too late to acknowledge your wrong–ask forgiveness–humble yourselves. Go to your child and connect at the level of restoration, admitting your wrong. Nowhere in the parent manual does it say you have to be perfect–but you must be correctable yourself. You are as both a sheep and a shepherd.
3- Take care of friends and be careful to have the right ones.
“Do not be fooled. “Bad companions ruin good character.” (I Corinthians 15:33)
This especially includes what our children see on TV and social media. Parents–the quickest way to lose your child to this world who seeks to use them for profit is to close your eyes to what their harmful influences are and to neglect protective measures.
PREMATURE EXPOSURE TO ADULT THEMES CONTINUES TO RAPE AND PILLAGE OUR FAMILIES.Children are to be protected and progressively exposed to the harsh realities of adult living. Not to do so is to watch your child become anxious and insecure, often depressed.
Sports, Arts, Faith, Education: Careful to observe #3.
Terrorism will always be with us at some level. My effort and yours to keep it out of our communities, family and personal life makes certain that progress is made.
I leave us all with these words:
38 You know that you have been taught, “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.” 39 But I tell you not to try to get even with a person who has done something to you. When someone slaps your right cheek,[i]turn and let that person slap your other cheek. 40 If someone sues you for your shirt, give up your coat as well. 41 If a soldier forces you to carry his pack one mile, carry it two miles. 42 When people ask you for something, give it to them. When they want to borrow money, lend it to them.
43 You have heard people say, “Love your neighbors and hate your enemies.” 44 But I tell you to love your enemies and pray for anyone who mistreats you. 45 Then you will be acting like your Father in heaven. He makes the sun rise on both good and bad people. And he sends rain for the ones who do right and for the ones who do wrong. 46 If you love only those people who love you, will God reward you for that? Even tax collectors[k] love their friends. 47 If you greet only your friends, what’s so great about that? Don’t even unbelievers do that? 48 But you must always act like your Father in heaven.” –Jesus Christ (Matthew 5:38-48)
If you do not know this Jesus personally in your heart–He seeks you. He knocks on your hearts door and patiently awaits your response. Turn from your unbelief and rebellion. Should you receive Him, His loving presence inside you is the assurance that terrorism has no hope over such love. He is light in this dark world. He said of himself:
19 The light has come into the world, and people who do evil things are judged guilty because they love the dark more than the light. 20 People who do evil hate the light and won’t come to the light, because it clearly shows what they have done. 21 But everyone who lives by the truth will come to the light, because they want others to know that God is really the one doing what they do.” (John 3:19-21)
Hey. Can you edit on your blog? The word “no” is omitted from “Stage 2”. No real bigee cause we all know what you mean. Just started reading….
On Tue, Apr 30, 2019 at 10:28 AM openhandspublications.com wrote:
> openhandspublications posted: “Terror is the final stage of three at > *gaining power and control over others and or a situation. Stage 1: > Flattery (when this deceit longer works-go to 2) Stage 2: Anger (2 will > lose effectiveness in quick fashion) Stage 3: Threats to abandon and or > harm” >
Oops, my bad… Omitted from Stage 1.
Just so you know, when I replied to your email, it posted on your blog as a comment. Not my intention. JC